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When your spouse is not a nudist Who's vacation is this?
| When you two don't see eye to eye on clothes vs clothes free, where are you spending your rec time? How do you decide this? Do you still take vacation together? Is there any compromise in the destination? How is this working(or not) for you? | |
| Easy....I make a decision. My wife tells me why I'm wrong. And we do her idea. She's on a 10 year role and I'm still not real sure how it works | |
| Whhhhoooopshhhhh | |
| can't argue that one LMAO | |
| I'm sure youv'e brought up your wishes with her. What is the reaction? | |
| of course. To answer one of your questions, we always vacation as a family with the one exception being a guys weekend in the mtns. on the motocycles for 3 days. as far as the family vacations we take they are almost always "textile" in that the kids go or we go with friends or family. some years we go to Palm Springs and rent someones timeshare or we go camp at the beach or the mountains. The decisions are based more on where is new, how much time we have, and what time of year more than if its clothesfree or not. the nudist aspect is actually very low on the totem pole | |
| the nudist trips are saved for day trips and maybe a saturday stay-over | |
| I suppose I can relate. New is more interesting to me than nude. | |
| I think the same can be said for any couple where one person is into something the other isn't. In addition to nudism, I also ski...my wife isn't into either. I get two weeks vacation, so does she. Skiing always trumps nudism for me, so I blow one week skiing with the boys and another is spent with her on a textiled vacation. She blows her other week with her sisters for "Girls' Week." I save my nudism for my days off during the week. There too we compromise. We both work at the same place and rarely have the same days off. When we are lucky enough to have a day off together, we spend it together usually at home or doing something we both enjoy. | |
| I've been lucky, because one place my wife and I love to vacation is the one place where she'll sometimes go nude as well. We rent a villa sometimes on St. Barths, and she'll be nude in the villa all the time, and will sometimes go nude on the beach (but only if it's relatively empty). I view that as a positive step towards getting her comfortable with the idea so maybe she'll want to try a slightly more crowded beach. If only I could afford to take her to St. barths more often! | |
| I can relate completely, time spent together has no room for arguing about clothes. I'm going camping in a few weeks to repay his compromise..I dread summer camping! But I know he dreaded his first moments and the anticipation of public nudity. I'm just fortunate that he was hooked right away! My excitement for nudism helped him be excited...excited about camping in July I am not, excited to please him, I am. | |
| Vacation? What's that? In my entire working life, I don't think I've ever gone anywhere for more than a day for the sole purpose of relaxing. I might have to try it one of these days although I'm sure she'll invoke her absolute veto power. | |
| I'm riding out a period of financial difficulty that I hope to be out of in a couple of years. She says I owe her a Las Vegas vacation and I'm trying to work out a compromise to spend some time at a clothing optional venue as well. | |
| I am going on vacation in 2 weeks toocean city maryland and I heard that there was a nudist beach on assateague island does any one know. My wife is not a nudist and thought this would be a place were we both could go. | |
| I'd google it, or ask in the chat room | |
| went on my vac at ocean city never did find a nudist area on assateague .but when we were in the room i was nude 90% of the time thats were the photo of me was shot. | |
| I'll admit that I'm a 100% nudist while my wife is a 95%er. Cold and, at times, nervousness make her sometimes unwilling. We always mix clothes and no clothes into our vacations. We do go on just NO Clothes vacations and we both love them but we do go on Clothed vacations and there are times when I've had enough of wearing clothes and she's okay with it. So...we usually mix the two and try and find a club or beach or resort to spend the day or a couple of days, depending on the length of the vacation. We just try and compromise and ensure that ALL of our likes are met and addressed. | |
| Nude4Evr, At least she'll join you for a bit of topless sunbathing. I doubt I could even get my wife to allow me any nude time out in the open, though I do spend all my time nude in our room when vacationing. During our last overnight outing to Mt. Chareston Resort just outside Las Vegas, I was nude fulltime in the room and wore only my robe to/from our couples massage session where I was nude beneath the sheet/blanket while my wife kept on her thong panty. We were each massaged by members of the opposite sex within the same room. It was wonderful not to hear anything negative from my wife throughout the afternoon and evening then on our drive back home the next morning. So, I guess I have to credit her for at least being tolerant, which doesn't always happen here at home. Jim | |
| My girlfriend and I usually go to nudist locaions. Once or twice a year we go to Palm Springs and she comes to my nudist club a lot. I am always nude but she usually wears a pareo and only goes nude when she wants to swim. It works for us. What is it with women who have to wear pareos at nudist resorts!? | |
| My wife agreed to some camping at 2 different nudist locations on our upcoming trip, so I'm looking forward to that and hoping it is a good experience for her. We've done it together in the past, but it's been a long time. She actually suggested one of them, so that was encouraging. | |
| The fact your wife suggested one of the nudist locations for your vacation does sound encouraging gymnostim. Hope you have a great trip and your wife will become more comfortable with nudism too. Jim | |
| Our nudist camping went pretty well, overall. We spent 2 nights camping at Avalon and my wife and son got comfortable with it quickly and wound up having a really nice time. We also spent 1 night at Carolina Foothills, but there were some things there that made her very uncomfortable, so we left first thing in the morning after camping. I think she'd go back to Avalon in a heartbeat, so it was still positive, I just need to research the clubs a little more first. We originally were going to camp at Cherokee Lodge, but we had to alter our route partway through and Carolina Foothills was closer to where we were driving. | |
| My wife is and has been a nudist since we got married. She's comfortable with being nude at home and for the last almost 14 years...comfortable in a public or social setting. She truly enjoys the freedom of a nude vacation but...that's not ALL she wants to do. She enjoys doing other things that require putting on something to do these other things. We tour landmarks, interesting sites, both love to shop and so on. She also knows that even though I enjoy doing these things with her, that require clothes, that I'm happier when I am naked and if I could...I'd never wear another stitch of clothing again, but that's unrealistic. With that in mind...she and I plan vacations together. Sometimes I'll suggest nude venues, other times she suggests nude venues. We compromise continually and that is what has made this marriage (38 yrs) and relationship (42 yrs) last for over 40 years. It works best for us if we throw in nude time and clothed time and many times...the nude time far out weighs the clothed time but...it's compromise and we both can live with that. Vacationing nude is difficult for newbies...and especially...newbie women. It's difficult for guys to come on here and read about the guys that have willing partners when the groups name is..."When your spouse is not a nudist". It is honestly my hope that when my posts are read, they are not taken as glouting or bragging but to show that with patience and understand from the more willing partner...things can change but they change over time and certainly not after reading a post here, from someone who's been where your are currently, but has had to endure the same reluctance and hesitation you're experiencing. It can happen. But it will take time, in most cases. ;) | |
| Not sure if this qualifies as "Vacation"? I do have a reluctant Wife. Up till about a year ago, she would never do/have anything to do with nudity other that the marital stuff. I had been talking to her about trying it seems like forever!! She finally agreed to go to a C/O B&B with the understanding that if she was too uncomfortable we would leave. And she was not getting naked! We did stay and she was fairly comfortable but only got nude once in the pool. We did talk alot about that trip and it was good. Over the past few monthes we have had a very busy time in our life, so I told her a few weeks ago that on July 8th I wanted her to take off work and I wanted us to go somewhere where we would be nude. She agreed, I gave her choices of where to go by letting her look at the websites. She actually chose WildWood Naturist Resort which is a nudist resort. We did go, we had a good time but she got sunburned. It was a very slow day so we had a lot of time to just experience it all. she would carry her towel over her tummy area when walking around, but would lay out and even float in the pool uncovered! This was a BIG step for her in my opinion. Due to her burn, she did not want to go back on Saturday but was ok with me going and meeting a friend ther which I did. After I got home, we did a lot of talking about all this and even looked at Both of the websites I am member of. I think all this went well, and hope that we can go back soon so we BOTH can experience this lifestyle more together. She did say that she did not mind me going without her at times, but wanted us to go together too!! I wouldnt say that she is a nudist now but she is much more comfortable with it. So, don't push, don't give up hope that it will never happen, cause she may surprise you one day and AGREE to go try it!! Best of luck to ALL of us... | |
| First, FireProf, I appreciate your guidance to us newbies and don't find your comments to be boastful or gloting at all. I really do appreciate your advice and hope to learn much from it. TXPopi, congratulations on your wife getting comfortable with the idea of social nudity. Your experience, I'd say, is very much what FireProf has been saying. So far I can't even get my wife to go nude on our screened in pation, though no one can actually see in through the sunscreen material unless it's backlit. But, she doesn't understand it and, so, hasn't even taken off her top yet to lay in the hammock. I'm hoping someday she'll at leat get down to her thong or g-string panties while out there. Eventually, I hope she'll dare to go ito the backyard, perhaps topless initially, then panties only, and finally nude. The next step then, will be to suggest e try a social outing or private nudist outing away from home. Just trying to take it a step at a time and be patient and loving. Jim | |
| Your vacation style sounds like mine, too FireProf. My wife would be bored sitting around too much and wants to get out and see the sights. I don't mind a good mix of both. One way I made our camping plans more palatable to her was that we didn't have to be at the resort for more than sleeping and breakfast if she didn't want to be. | |
| What is so great about this particular type of vacationing...is that going out to view the sights, walking around, up and down stairs, shopping...takes a lot outta a person and the next day...all they wanna do is be naked and relax! There is a method to my madness! LOL | |
| I concur, BJJB. I've learned alot from FireProf's wise advice and have encouraged others to take heed as well. Jim | |
| Absolutely, FP's advice is spot-on! There is some percentage of spouses who for various reasons will never be able to allow themselves to have a social nude experience, but for the rest I think that patience, trust, and communication can definitely give some hope. |
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