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| What do you see as the point or purpose of "Friends" here on NCH? What value do you derive in this "Facebook" like format on NCH? Do you network with these "Friends"? Let's talk... | |
| Friends is a statement of commonality in my thinking. It also allows you to see if someone you want to exchange chat with is in the chat room or not. You can also easily check for updates from the friends list. | |
| I know it's hard to believe but...I rarely request friendship from anyone. I have on rare occasions only after I see that the person I've requested friendship from has something in common with me and my philosophies of naturism/nudism. I get requests quite frequently and...I'm always surprised that many of those are from people that have very little posted on their profile, never add a comment on "why" they want to be my friend and with a somewhat blank profile...I can't tell why they'd want to be friends with me. Making friends on here has it's pluses! I've met some pretty great people on here and am hoping, quite honestly, that I get to meet them in person someday. Our philosophies on "everything" may not mesh but...we have a connection with naturism/nudism and several other things, that are good enough for me to consider them "friends." I'd much rather someone got to know me better on the boards and responded to me, via a request, on why they feel we could have a friendship. ONE THING I DON'T LIKE: When females arrive on a site...they are automatically bombarded with requests for friendship. Why is that? Why do guys do that and scare many of our female members away or into a position of putting their profiles on private. It also causes many of them to stop posting. Sure they'll log on and read but...without them posting their feelings, their prospectives...their opinions...NCH ends up just another one of those nudsits sites dominated entirely by guys. Some of these guys are our own worse enemy! FOR THOSE GUYS: Give it a rest guys...if she wants to be friends...she'll contact YOU! ;) With FaceBook: Too long a story as to why I'm on there. I visit a couple days a week to check on comments from friends. I've gotten SO MANY friend requests from females we went to HS with that...WOULD NEVER give me the time of day while in HS...but NOW they want to be friends...40+ yrs later!?? NOPE! FB friends has had it's perks. I did reconnect with my best friend in HS. I was close to his family and it was nice to reconnect and get updates on his parents and sisters. I stay in contact with other retired firemen that have moved away and were good friends while we were working. I'm alerted to friends Bday's so I can wish them well and tell them to do something different and... spend their Bday in their Bday suit! LOL I usually get a LOL outta those posts. It's true...you can accept all requests and then...delete them later if they are not what you want...but I much rather get to know someone first...then become friends. It's just me. :) | |
| FaceBook has allowed me to be in EASY contact with folks I care about around the country and the world, and even to be closer to my local friends and family! Especially my kids - who live in the same town but are Busy with college and their friends! Thanks to FireProf for his insight about guys bombarding women strangers with Friend Requests! I will not Friend anyone I have no prior knowledge of! My $.02! | |
| It kind of helps to see who is in your general area that shares the same interests you have. we usually run into a few friends that are current/former members/residents of ODNR at a weekly market night here in Redlands, CA. | |
| I agree with barefreedom regarding commonality. It's my opinion, that "friends" on social sites such as this simply have similar interests. Friends may belong to the same group(s) or share the same philosophy regarding naturism/nudism. The number of "friends" I have on NCH is reflective of my actual physical life. I'm not very sociable and have a small number of friends. And since I'm not sociable, I don't or rarely make "friends request". I think I've made only one request since joining NCH. | |
| From a another woman's viewpoint, "friends on NCH" is very different than from what most of you guys have said. Let me blunt. From my perspective, very few of the men on here really want to form a social friendship with me, they just really want to look at my pictures. I think maybe the same applies to Blondie. Why do the majority want to look at our pictures... well you can use your imaginations. I guess there are some women on here that like that for whatever reasons but some of us women don't appreciate being "pawed". It is a real turn-off and speaks to the sexualization of websites like this one. As mentioned by BlondieNC and FireProf, women get bashed by friend requests as well as profile views. An example is my Friend Request level exceeds my husbands by several hundreds. My Profile Views exceed his by THOUSANDS. Need I say more. Yes I am probably a more visible person here on NCH so that would explain some of it but DANG people, something else has to be working also. I do appreciate the sincere requests for friendships and the nice conversations some of us have had so don't get the wrong impression. I am in the process of trimming down my "friends" here on NCH, nothing personal for the most part, just doing what I need to do for me. | |
| I have tried NOT to respond to SB...really I have...I read her thread and then told myself I WOULD NOT respond ...but I just can not help it... so I will post this on Saturday when no one is around to read it... 1) In the world I live in men and women are wired completely differrently...Mother Nature did this ... and it applies to the textile world as much as it does to the nudist world... 2) From 30 minutes after we guys are born breasts are shoved quite literally in our faces...day after day...month after month...now in your world SB that might not be the case and if that is so then you live in a wonderful place...for the rest of the world that is just not so... 3) You can hardly pick up a magazine in todays world and NOT find dozens and dozens of ads with large breasted women selling everything from OMG!!! bras with breasts in them to hamburgers... Men are innudated with breasts constantly... And ooo by the way SB the number 2 most requested Plastic Surgery proceedure by women is ...wait for it..oooo nooo...it can't be...NOT BREAST implants...and do you know the number 1 and number 2 responses heard when the woman is asked why she wants implants??? My boyfriend and or husband wants a larger size ...that is number one...the number two??? I want my clothes to fit better...yeah of course you do...and how do I know this??? part of my work revolves around the field of plastic surgery... Women sexualized breast just as much if not more than men do ... sooo all this garbage about male sexualization is just that...garbage.. If you don't want comments...if you want to be left alone post no pictures of yourself or post only a head shot...and on your profile simply say "I DO NOT WANT YOUR FRIEND RQUEST... other wise males will be males whether in the textile world or the nudist world...they will always look ...stare and even OMG!!!! drool...over breasts... OOOkay FireProf...have at me...LOL | |
| For the women who are getting blasted with so many "friends requests" from men, isn't it simply just reflective of the way of the world. Sex/sexuality can be removed from naturism/nudism, but it can't be removed from the naturist/nudist individual. However, the individual should keep his/her sexuality "in check" when the environment isn't sexual/sexually-related. It's common knowledge (at least I thought it was) that too many men think with the wrong head. Men are often told or conditioned to believe that we have to be "the man"; and for some, having a lot of females as "friends" satisfies this requirement, which is somewhat equivalent to being the king lion amongst the pride. What's surprising is when women are "surprised' by men just being men. If two nude women walked into a honky tonk full of "straight" men, shouldn't they expect the men to come on to them; because if none of the men didn't and behaved as polite gentlemen, those two women would more than likely be pissed ("What's wrong with these men?!"). I can understand Sunbunny being upset; but on a web site full of men, regardless of one's understanding of proper nudist etiquette, shouldn't women expect such boorish behavior from some men. | |
| TexasnNewd, I appreciate your attempt at restraint... I really really do. I also clearly appreciate your position on boobs being a difficult thing to keep your hands off since they are in your face marketed everywhere and tend to make things hard on a guy, my sympathies. You are also correct that the focus many women put on them is incredible. Not a bad thing, just incredible. But boobs are not the point... "pawing" is the point. I am a big girl and I don't need FireProf to defend me on this but a little self control is always a good thing by the men who pounce on women with friend requests. My point is I try to be nice and by not denying all the friend requests but when you really think about it, what is the point of the majority of these friend requests and what value is in it for me. In general, I get a little "icky" feeling about men who's list of friends only include women. Do I want to be part of that stable, no I don't. What do you think about these "ickies"? Tex, it is always nice to hear from you in your usual blunt and real manner, I always know where you are at on any given subject. Actually, I kinda enjoy your grasp on reality and courage to be non-PC. Also, as equally hard to believe, AN members read these posts on weekends so no duckin' out big guy. | |
| TexasnNewd... The fact that you felt I needed to "have at you"...is reason enough not to respond...LOL Thanks for thinkin' so... :) | |
| If a person does NOT want to feel "pawed" over on NCH (male or female)..then simply place a face picture on their profile site and a note mentioning that..."I MAKE MY OWN FRIENDS REQUEST" that way any person will not feel like they are part of a hareem or group...it is a simple resolution...no one would qwak at any pictures and the person would could pick who "THEY" wanted for friends..other wise..just like in the textile world people (especially women) will be mentally "pawed" over and hit on... |
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