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A Breakthrough
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A breakthrough has occurred. In prior postings I related how my first wife passed away nearly three years ago and how we had both encouraged each other to go out and have another life after the first one of us passed away. I just had not planned on having to go that route for another ten to twenty years. After she passed away I went through severe mourning and decided to make some changes. I adopted a nude lifestyle, was comfortable with it, and joined my local club. Then I began courting one of my wife’s friends. She is not comfortable with social nudity and did not want me looking at other naked women, so I resigned the club just prior to our marriage. She is now a reluctant spouse who is totally comfortable being naked indoors but is scared someone will see her in the backyard when she is not fully dressed, she would not even flash the man in the moon.

The big breakthrough occurred last week while we were planning a short trip to celebrate our first anniversary. The first idea was to stay at the Palace Hotel in San Francisco, but it is sold out. The second idea was a bed and breakfast in Calistoga, Napa, or nearby. They were also all sold out. As a frivolous gesture I did a Google search on “nude Calistoga” and found one possibility. I studied their website for a few minutes and decided it was a good choice. A phone call confirmed that there was a room available and that the hot tub and pool area was clothing optional. When I asked for approval I warned her she might see a naked person; and she actually said that it would be all right. The big breakthrough is that last year she would have said absolutely no way, not at all, would not go, etc. You get the picture. So we are going to the Medowlark Inn in Calistoga, California, for a weekend, I hope I can persuade her to try out the hot tub, even if someone else is naked nearby, and maybe even shed the bikini top.

I will give you an update when we return, until then, please pray with me to ease her fears, give her the peace of mind to step into another world, to see that there is nothing to be afraid of, and to open her heart to a new adventure.


nudecojohn

Posted: Oct 1, 2012

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 Congrats!!!
Wow..good luck with that. I will say a prayer that she is ok with it. I too am dating a new woman who is not into nudism. Says she is fine with me doing it but its not for her. Maybe she will come around. Too early to tell.
Anyway I sure hope tha works out for you. It will be so great for your relationship. Remember...dont push her and just let her go as far as she is comfortable and be happy with that.
New_Adventurer I read this post elsewhere but want to again congratulate you and wish you both the very best here as well.

Looking forward to what I hope will be a positive update.

Jim

bakodb

Posted: Oct 4, 2012

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 Congrats New Adv. I enjoy reading positive and uplifting stories!
Trip Report

We arrived at the Meadowlark Inn (see http://www.meadowlarkinn.com) about six in the evening and were met by one of the two owners who greeted us and gave us a short tour. The tour started at the west end of the complex at the pool and hot tub. This is a stand-alone area with a wood gate that has some wind chimes on the gate that act as an announcement that the gate is being opened. Another couple was seated at a table near the hot tub; she was clutching a towel to cover up while he was bare and made no pretense to hide. The tour continued back to the main house, past the rose garden, on past one guest cottage, and on to our cottage. In the distance was the aviary and barn. We were shown our room and told that breakfast was at nine, “You are on vacation and can sleep late, no need for breakfast at six or seven.” When we were alone I made the comment that “You saw a naked man and lived through it.”

The next morning we did indeed sleep late and enjoyed a leisurely breakfast of gourmet eggs and fruit. When I made the room reservation I included a request for a massage for both of us between breakfast and our outing for the day. Since we were so laid back already, the massages were rescheduled for five. On the way to our first event of the day we had to stop and get a bikini to replace the one that was left at home. The big event was late lunch at the Culinary Institute of America in Saint Helene; excellent food and a memorable experience. We changed for the massages, her bikini and a robe while I was in my shorts and a tee shirt, and walked down to the pool. The masseur was waiting for us while talking to the couple we met the night before; all three were nude. He suggested I take a quick dip in the hot tub to loosen up, which I did by stepping out of my shorts, tossing the tee shirt on the pile, and stepping into the tub for a couple of minutes. My wife went over to the table and sat in her robe talking to the other couple. The massage room was dimly lit and warm and I was soon half asleep feeling no pain.

After an hour I emerged to find my wife still sitting at the table, although she said she had been in the tub twice. She got up and walked into the massage room and I followed. I teased her a little, asking if she needed a chaperone. She gave a quiet little “No.” Then she took her robe off and stood next to the table in her bikini. I said she would enjoy it more if she took this off, as I tugged at the back band of her top. She took the top off and then stepped out of the bottom half too, which is more than I expected. The massage started and I went out to get a shower and get all the oil off and then went back to the hot tub for a half hour.

When I thought the time was about up I went back to see how she was doing and found her flat on her back and almost asleep. The masseur commented that she was very flexible, quite muscular, and very beautiful. I responded with, “Yes, and she is only sixty one years old.” I helped her up and she wanted her bikini back, I told her it was outside with my stuff, and that she did not need it anyway. She still wanted it to walk over to the shower room. We spent another hour in the hot tub and during part of that time the other couple joined us. After a while they left and a second couple came in. In summary she had seen three nude men, two nude women, had been nude with the masseur for an hour, and yet she was still shy about being nude in the hot tub.

The next day we went wine tasting and that night I said I wanted more hot tub time. She smiled and said, “You just want to get naked again.” “Yes, and I would like you to join me too.” She did, but still with the bikini on. Later she said, “I am for your eyes only.”

I think I made some major progress and that she is well on her way to shedding the bikini. Our own hot tub installation is nearly done and then it will just be a matter of practice and patience. She saw a total of ten naked people, none of them bit her, all were good looking, all were friendly and respectful, and she lived through the experience. The overall vacation was a huge success. We also went home with five cases of wine.
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